boy toy: October 2006 Archives

... to everyone who has a friend or relative who is in a long term relationship but is not yet engaged:

Do not feel the need to constantly harrass the person as to why they are not yet wearing a ring on their finger. It is annoying and nosy and after a while it gets very very old.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. Thats an awfully long time. We talk openly about marriage, and weddings, and what ours will be like. Neither of us are in any sort of rush to tie the knot seeing as I am still in school and am still 10 months or so from actually being able to support myself. I would love to be engaged, but it doesn't mean that I am unhappy with how things are now.

Almost every single day (literally) for the last year or two I have fielded questions as to when we will be getting engaged, why I have no ring, et cetera et cetera et cetera. And I'm tired of it. I'm tired of constantly having to defend my relationship. I shouldn't have to. Things are pretty great.

When we got back from our trip to Colorado this week, the first question from everyone was "How was your trip?". The second question was "So ... no ring?".

Its getting old. And in all honesty, its sort of taking the fun out of the whole experience for me. Why does everyone feel the need to try to force things and speed things up and put in their two cents about the timeframe in which we should be making lifelong commitments? They mean well, but they're not helping.

Don't people have other things to worry about besides the status of my relationship??

I mean, really ... don't we LOOK happy?

Ok, I'm done. Just had to get that off my chest.

Please note, I'm not talking about ANYONE who reads this blog. Unfortunately the people who need to hear me say "Just leave me alone about this ... please?" aren't readers. Maybe if they were, they'd get off my back.